How wonderful you recognize that you’re continuing to imitate your mother’s actions. Don’t think for a moment that you "inherited" anything. The only thing you’ll ever inherit is property; everything else is learned. You were a good, obedient little girl, and you learned how to behave and how to think by observing your mother. She probably learned the same thing from her mother. Now you’re going to break the cycle and won’t pass on those traits to your children. And all your friends will find that you’re a lot more fun to be around. It’s time for rejoicing!

Take one small step at a time. Be aware that all controlling behavior stems from fear—fear that if it isn’t done your way, you won’t be safe. That’s not true. You’re totally loved and adored by the Universe. When everything has to be done your way, it puts up a barrier to the good that could come into your life…if you’d just trust that the Universe has only good in store for you. Let Life flow, and it will be far better than if you ran everything.

Continue to notice when you’re trying to control people, places, and things. Then just take a deep breath and say "That’s an old pattern, and I release it and let it go. I am safe and all is well." At first, you’ll be doing this all day long. Then before long, you’ll find that you’ll have to do it less and less. You’ll feel so much better because you won’t be putting so much stress on yourself. Life is good. Be happy!

Of course, confront him, and remember you’ll also have to admit how you found out. It’s vital you two have a really honest discussion. Talk about the problems you’ve had, and try to do so calmly, without bitterness. We’re all under the law of our own consciousness, so you both had a part in this situation. His feelings are just that, his feelings. They have little to do with you. It was fine when you were a girlfriend, but when you became a live-in, it was too much for him.

So have the conversation and then move on. A good affirmation to use is If you will not be in my life, then you cannot be in my mind. Don’t punish yourself by going over and over this in your head. It’s a waste of time. And don’t rush into another relationship. Give yourself space to really love who you are. Learn to be happy with yourself. Think thoughts that make you feel good. It’s the quickest way for you to go beyond this lesson. Affirm I love and adore myself. All is well in my world.

When someone decides to leave the planet, it’s a time for rejoicing for them, because they move back into the pure, positive energy of Life. It’s only hard on those still here. Your mother is now in a place where she has no problems, illness, worries, or loss. She is fine and is smiling down on you, only wishing you would stop suffering. She’d like to talk to you and is waiting for you to talk to her. Confide in her. Ask her your questions, and she will answer—most likely in dreams or symbols. You’ll see or find something that will speak to you, and you’ll know it’s her.

From now on, when you think about your mom, be sure it’s only the good, joyful stuff. Continually thank her for all the wonderful times you had together. Your mother, together with the entire Universe, is molding and shaping the most delightful life for you. The only thing they ask of you is that you be happy. So think joyful thoughts, breathe a lot, and know that you’ll make all the right choices. Affirm I bless my eyes with love. I see what I love, and I love what I see. All is well in my world.