Manifest Your Mate
By Jill Crosby

Most singles on a conscious path are relatively happy and content with their lives, however, they would usually prefer to be in a loving, spiritual partnership with a person that enhances their life and gives them the opportunity to grow and thrive in a deep, spiritual love, making their life even more enjoyable. Finding the love of your life can be a daunting challenge these days, without having a little help. Incorporating the following tips and techniques will help manifest the love of your life in no time!

Get Love: When you love yourself unconditionally, you create and draw loving energy toward yourself. Remembering you are Divine Energy makes loving yourself unconditionally come naturally. We all came from the same Divine Energy and everything is made of this energy, including you! Quantum physics teaches that nothing is fixed, there are no limitations and everything is vibrating energy. In an interview discussing his book, How to Know God, Deepak Chopra said, “In this book I explain God as infinite intelligence, the source of all information: energy, matter, and of course, also space and time, the structure and the fabric of the universe. Then I show how, through biological responses, humans are capable of experiencing first, bits and pieces of this infinite intelligence and ultimately, the infinite unbounded intelligence, directly.” You are “God” having a human experience, so forgive yourself for making any mistakes, learn the lessons from “being human” and move on! When you fully immerse yourself in Divine, unconditional love of self you will feel exuberant, joyful and deeply peaceful.

To help you get to an unconditionally loving place, treat yourself to a brief meditation of self love every morning and night. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, get centered and relaxed. Once in a meditative state, feel and know your connection with Divine Energy and know you are Divine. Feel your strong love for Divine (God) deep in your soul. Feel grateful, happy and in love with yourself. Do this for at least five minutes when you first wake in the morning and every night before bed. Appreciate and love yourself throughout the day. Take a few breaths and think “I love me! I AM DIVINE ENERGY AND LOVE!” and feel total acceptance and love for yourself.

When you remember and embrace your Divinity, you will be grounded in self-love and wholeness, not looking to others to “complete” or validate you. You are whole, complete and in love with yourself, therefore, fully present when inter-acting with others.

Get Clear: Once you have developed a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, the next step is to get clear about the type of person you would like to draw into your life. In an interview with Jack Canfield, author of Chicken Soup for the Soul, he says, “You definitely have to decide what you want. If I call up a travel agent and say, “I’d like to go on vacation,” they’re going to say next, “Where do you want to go?” I could say “Some place warm,” but eventually they’re going to force me to decide. Until I decide, they can’t help me get there. Neither can the reticular activating system in your brain, what I call your “Inner GPS.”

A great exercise on getting clear starts listing all the qualities you would like to experience in your ideal partner. Write everything that comes to mind, such as integrity, honesty, good sense of humor, active, healthy, intelligent, great chemistry, wants kids, financially stable, loves to travel etc. Once you have your list, circle the items that are “must haves.” In other words, if your ideal partner does not have these qualities, it would be a deal breaker. Consider everything you have not circled a “preference.” For example, a “must have” might be “he must be a non-smoker” and a preference might be, “I prefer her to be attractive.” Remember, you are meeting a “soul” in a human body. The body is temporary and the real connection is with the soul, so let things like body type, height, weight and race be preferences (if at all); they are really not that important. Chemistry is a funny thing and comes in all shapes and sizes. Lifestyle, activity level, spirituality and a decent base of common interests are more important.

Once you have your “must haves” and preferences, get the creative juices flowing and write a story describing an ideal day with your ideal mate. Make it multi-sensory and live it up! Use present tense, as if he/she is already in your life. Make sure to include how your partner will make you feel and what kind of interactions and energy you will experience together. For example: “I wake up in the morning and feel the tropical breeze on my face, smell the gardenias in the air and hear the peaceful sound of the ocean waves off our balcony. I roll over and smile at my husband. His eyes light up as he hugs me and tells me how much he loves me. He is the most loving, intelligent, kind, funny, friendly, environmentally conscious, spiritual man I have ever met. My heart swells with joy and gratitude, feeling so content and so in love! After our sumptuous breakfast and morning meditation we go for a swim in the ocean with the dolphins that frequent the cove where we live.”

Go through your whole day like this and you will not only be manifesting your ideal mate, you will be creating your ideal life!

Get Grateful: Rhonda Byrne, author of The Secret, writes: “With all that I have read and all I have experienced in my own life using The Secret, the power of gratitude stands above everything else. If you do only one thing with the knowledge of The Secret, use gratitude until it becomes your way of life.”

Now let’s energize your story with the emotions of gratitude! Read your story out loud and imagine he/she is ALREADY in your life and FEEL joy and gratitude for the beautiful life you have created together! Now, really expand those feelings and let your heart fill with love. After doing this, let it go and whenever you think about it, imagine the wonderful life you have together and know it’s done. Feel grateful every time you think about it. Any feelings of doubt or skepticism will slow down the process or even prevent it, so be confident and know it’s done.

Get Busy: The final step is, TAKE ACTION! Jack Canfield states, “You can’t just wish for a Cadillac while sitting in your living room and have one show up in your driveway. So you have to take action with faith that it’s going to come true.” The best way to take action is put yourself in situations where you can meet other eligible singles. Join activity groups, take classes and do things you enjoy. Be open to meeting/dating a variety of people “looks-wise;” remember, chemistry is a funny thing!

Joining an online spiritual dating site will provide you with a targeted “pool” of conscious singles. Use intuition to let Divine Energy guide you toward whom you should contact, be pro-active and initiate contact! Trust the Divine love you feel for self will be reciprocated by the right person. Just relax, be yourself, have fun and enjoy the process. Continue to feel grateful in advance and watch the sparks fly! Here’s to you and may you manifest your mate easily and joyfully!

Jill Crosby is a dynamic public speaker, workshop/retreat leader and hypnotherapist. Visit: www.SpiritualSingles.com